Module 1, Lesson 1
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Blaming

A similar distorted thinking pattern to personalizing is blaming. Whereas the personalizing distorted thinking pattern relates everything back to yourself, blaming occurs when you focus more on who you think is at fault in a situation rather than focusing on a resolution to the situation. When you cast blame, either at yourself or others, this rarely helps matters because it is more about identifying someone to punish than it is about finding a solution to a problem. When you find yourself casting blame on yourself or on others, try reframing the situation in terms that look for a solution. Ask yourself, “Regardless of who is at fault, what can I do to make this situation better?” Keep in mind that taking responsibility is different from taking blame. When someone is responsible, they are “able to respond,” which means they are capable of changing a situation rather than being at fault in a situation.